Obedient Lifestyle

If you complain a lot, or if you’re never in a good mood, and if you are always thinking or being negative, then you might be toxic, not only to yourself but to those around you too. And if you never have anything good to say about anyone or anything, especially to those who are close to you, work with you or live with you, then you are most likely toxic. Whose fault is this? It is our fault, if we choose to live this negative unhealthy lifestyle, then this is how our lives will stay.

I say toxic because we really can be a damper on someone’s life. Stress can be dangerous, it can literally make us sick or someone else sick. We can change this though, but most of us don’t understand this because we are too busy blaming others, and sometimes we do it without even realizing our own mistakes. We should really take a look at ourselves closely on how we are acting. Do we have bad attitudes? Are we happy? Are we angry? Blaming others will not ever fix our problems, they will never go away. The reason I keep saying “blaming others” is because the majority of us do blame others for the way we feel, it’s a worldwide problem, and even some say it is an addiction. There was a survey done in 2011 at the University of Karachi in Pakistan, that 83% of people of all situations said the “blame game” was a habit. I used to do it so I totally believe this. Blaming will only get us so far in life, sure we can get away with it when we are children, but when we go to a job interview as an adult and the interviewer asks us why we didn’t go to college or finish college, we can’t answer back with the blame game. Truth is, it is OUR fault, and nobody else’s. When we turn 18 we are legally an adult, so our parents or guardians can’t be held responsible anymore, and what ever we choose to do after that is because we chose to do so. As adults we should know better not to blame others, and take responsibility for our actions. If we choose to be angry because someone cut us off on the highway, then it is our choice. But remember this, the guy who cut us off just goes on his merry way without even a thought about us, while all we can do is be angry and tell everyone how angry we are because of the guy who cut us off, and ruin our day because our anger took over. Is it really worth it?

What we have to do is bite the bullet and take responsibility for our own mistakes. I believe getting angry can be labeled as a mistake. If you let everything bother you, then that is a mistake and/or problem. We have to quit allowing ourselves to feel angry or sad because of someone elses words, presence or actions. Be the bigger person for once and swallow your pride.

One positive thing we can do is to make the best of the situation, make the angry/sad person that walks into the room laugh to change the mood, and if it doesn’t work, do it again next time. Eventually they will laugh. Compliment them on something, or do something to make them smile, even if you feel uneasy.  When was the last time you praised them for something? Or told them their hair looks good, or they did a good job with something, sometimes people need that, especially if they don’t ever hear it. It doesn’t matter how old you are, everyone loves to hear good things about themselves. And if you are saying to yourself, since they don’t compliment you why should you compliment them. Take a deep breath, and take a couple minutes thinking how selfish that sounds, and after you’re done feeling sorry for yourself, say something nice to that person. Or even buy or make them a gift. I know you can’t buy love but some people need this to feel special, especially if they are depressed. The more they feel special the more happier they will be. When people are depressed and/or in bad state of minds, it is hard to get them out of it, it is not because they hate you, it is because they aren’t happy. We have to stay positive, and stay positive for these people. Being negative, or complaining about everything they do is not going to help the situation. But being positive will help. This is what God would want us to do. We need more God and confidence in our lives, God will help us over come these obstacles and strengthen our confidence. Instead of blaming God for our short comings and failures, we should always ask for His help. Just like it is not our family, boss or spouses fault, it is not God’s fault either. God put us on this earth for a reason, and it is our choice to do good or to do bad. If we don’t try to make ourselves better, or give up to soon because we don’t think God cares to help us, then it is our fault. Being mad at God will not fix the situation, just like eating a tub of ice cream won’t either.

Unfortunately, a lot of these problems arise because of the way we live our lifestyles. Unhealthy eating, long time abuse on our bodies, not exercising, never getting any fresh air or natural sunlight, these can all factor in to why we act this way. Then we all go to the doctor for our problems, and most of the time get prescriptions that will just make us worse. Sure it might help one problem, but what about all the other problems and side effects that it causes then more pills that, and so on….

 If our thoughts are wrong, our feelings are wrong. And thoughts and feelings combined make up moral character. The impossibility lies in our own will, we will never reach a higher standard than we set for ourselves. Walk humbly and keep moving forward.

The moral to this blog is, be kind to one another, be helpful. Stay positive, make people smile, help someone, compliment as much as possible. Give a gift. Show the other person you care. Share the love. Pray.

The gift of encouragement is a gift given by the Holy Spirit. It’s the most needful gift.

The world is full of people to tell us what’s wrong with us, so we need more people to make us feel good.

Avoid complaining and negativity. And if we can’t avoid it, make the best out of the situation.

What would Jesus do? As the bible says in Matthew “.. do unto others, as you would have them do unto you.” The bible also says, ” ..we walk by Faith, NOT by sight.” If we aren’t walking by Faith, then what are we walking by?

God Bless

Works Cited:

Matthew 7:12 “ Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.”

2 Corinthians 5:7 “For we walk  by faith, not by sight.”